This past weekend I attended a home and patio show in my city. One of the vendors was selling sheds. These were not the structures one would see anywhere in America that is usually placed in the backyard to house their gardening tools. He was selling sheds as a counterpart to the man cave concept. He asked me was I in the market for one and I politely declined. He inquired why while sharing how beautiful they are, how they offer a place of solace and serenity etc. I reiterated that I wouldn’t need one. I replied to him that I have a home. He seemed puzzled while becoming irritated that he obviously wouldn’t make a sale with me that day. I explained to him that separate spaces are not the answer for a happy family; no matter how beautifully arrayed the structure. At this point he rudely walked away. The idea followed me home and God began to deal with me about how our society seeks separateness, yet yearn for relationship. What an oxymoron! The shed concept suggests when any relationship is faced with a challenge, the answer is to run and hide. The answer is to avoid the issue, hoping it will somehow “work itself” out. The answer is going with the flow even if you don’t agree in order to avoid confrontation. Our American society believes in this deeply embedded concept that we need separate living spaces; a cave for him; a shed for her, a playroom for the kids. This is not a successful relationship model nor is it biblical. The word of God reminds us that the two shall become one flesh. This is usually a passage identified with marital unions but I saw it from a new perspective.
Our God is a relational God!
The sole purpose for Jesus coming to walk among men was to make himself a sacrifice in order for a way for a wayward world to have a relationship with the Father. When problems arise in our lives isolation is not the answer. The answers always reside in the word of God. The bible reminds us that if two or three are gathered together in the name of Jesus, He is in the midst. When we are in need of resolution to a matter we need the presence of the Lord to fill the atmosphere. If issues or obvious problems are never addressed and the Lord is not invited in, the enemy wreaks havoc in our lives. We wind up living in ambiguity, confusion and assumptions. Guiding a family or navigating any friendship in such grey areas is sure destruction. God grows us through our relationships; even those we find most challenging. In discovering the answers we not only find a deeper place in God, we can clearly discern who we are in the Kingdom. We sharpen each other, we mature one another and the blessing is we are pruned for ministry work.
In order to walk in total deliverance, we must seek to expose negativity in all areas that affect us. We must search ourselves and allow God to perfect us. Our perfection in Christ is uncovered when we realize we’re imperfect beings on journeys of our own. Yet in the midst of each personal quest for wholeness our lives; our families, friends, career and spiritual walk have the common thread of of being fed by human interaction. Maintaining the facade of success while dying from empty associations has to cease! New clothing, wealth, big homes or new cars may give the appearance of affluence, but God is not impressed if we have an empty relationship with Him.
How tragic it would be, if when we needed to be blessed we find that Jesus was simply unavailable?
What would we do if we prayed only to find He was in a “man cave” because He needed “space”? How awful it would be if when our next breath came due, and we found ourselves suffocating because He was visiting the “She Shed”? The beauty in serving God is that even though we may forge ahead with the responsibilities our station in life demands, He is ALWAYS there for us. Every issue we’d mull over in any shed or cave can be rectified through the power of prayer. Any healthy, thriving relationship has to start with Jesus. God desires that we allow Him to walk in the deep places of our heart and deliver us from anyone or anything that blocks us from hearing His voice.
When things become difficult in our relationships separation is not always the answer. The answers lie in the word of God and prayer. God’s word reminds us how good and pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity. This doesn’t support the shed or cave ideology at all. There is no shed; cave or relationship that can be a viable substitute for salvation through Christ. The tranquility, harmony and affirmation we are desperate to embrace is in Him. Let your prayer closet be your “Shed”. Let it be the place where you shut away to meet with the relational expert named Jesus.
Be encouraged and blessed child of the MOST HIGH GOD!